The Greatest Job

In America, we celebrate mothers and fathers on their respective days. I like to celebrate being a parent every day because it is the greatest job on earth.

I had no idea what it meant to be a mother until it happened. The moment that I saw my first child I felt like time stood still. Every molecule inside me seemed to leave my body go out to the end of the universe and come back. The only thing that mattered was this new little person. All of my dreams melted and became dreams for her. It was pivotal.

My husband felt the same way. He would speak of what it felt like to hold someone that fit in his hand and knowing that everything he wanted to do began and ended with this little person. Becoming a parent, made me love my husband more. God made us one thru our children, faith and family.  These are the strongest bonds.

Our ability to love was not limited to one child. With each child that God gifted our family, our hearts expanded. We were amazed that we had the ability to love yet another person with intensity. We felt as if our lives had not even started until this person joined our family, and we would joke and wonder how we were content before they joined us. It makes you realize how powerful love can be, and that the more people you care about the more love you will feel.

I was practicing law when my first child was born. I gave up my job to stay at home with my daughter. I did not ever think that I would want to be at home, but after my daughter was born, the only place I wanted to be was close to her. I am so very grateful that my husband understood and supported my desire. He worked very hard to support our family and ensure that I could be at home and give up my income. There were many sacrifices made for me to be at home, but they were worth it.

Homeschooling was a very special experience and privilege. It is amazing to watch your children learn, to take them on field trips, to help them overcome difficulties, and share in their triumphs, to be able to watch them grow and develop. That does not mean there are no hard days, it just means that there are more wonderful days in the mix.

In 2009, my husband and I exchanged places. He took over homeschooling and I returned to work. This was a decision that we had to make when the company my husband worked for experienced a huge downturn. We had a family and four children and we had to do what was needed to support our family. We both knew that homeschooling was best for our children so we decided that one of us would continue homeschooling. My husband and I both looked for suitable work, and God opened doors for me. I felt then, and still feel today, that I do not understand God’s plans, but I know His plan is always the best.

When I went back to work, I missed being around my children. But I knew they were in the best hands. Who could possibly love and care about their future more than me and their father? My husband made a huge transition from corporate America. He was used to running projects, doing research and leading adults. Now he was homeschooling four children, becoming a master chef and managing a household. He made a difficult transition and continues to do a great job. He is a great example for our four children. Showing them that working, homeschooling, and running a home are the responsibilities of both parents. Raising a family is a team effort.

His work with the four children has given them an incredible foundation in areas where I do not excel…namely math and science. But most of all he has given our children experiences that I could not. Every summer they go on adventure field trips, traveling the world, experiencing the places, people, and food that they study. I do not have the courage for such things, so I am very happy that my husband has opened up the world for our children.

I was fortunate to have had an education that allowed me to transition back into a great job. My husband and my children are my constant source of inspiration. A desire to provide for my family drives me to work hard and grow in my career so that I can support and provide opportunities for my family. I feel very fortunate to have had the luxury of being at home and homeschooling my children, and then being able to transition back into my career to support my family.

God has given me the good fortune of experiencing many jobs and I am eternally grateful that he has given me the opportunity to be a parent.

Maria Wiemann

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They made us parents.  🙂

Marriage – The Ultimate Commitment

 

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I have heard that people no longer believe in marriage. In fact, they believe that marriage is an antiquated and unnecessary institution. I do not agree.

Marriage is the definition of commitment. In a marriage, two people make a promise to God and each other to love and respect each other for life. When things get rough, you are called to remember your promise to God and each other. In doing so, you must remember what made you fall in love and work on your marriage. Working on a marriage is not a one-time event, it is a daily requirement that lasts a lifetime. Regardless of health, wealth, or any other condition, you uphold your promise to love and cherish another person for life. That is commitment.

A commitment to your marriage is a commitment to your family. Families thrive when marriages are happy. When a married couple treats each other with love and respect they create a safe and happy home. Such a home is the ideal environment for children to thrive and grow. It is important to work at a marriage so that your home and the people in it will be happy. In this sense, a commitment to marriage results in happiness for the whole family.

All people want commitment. We want to be loved and cherished. We want to be happy. When we cannot find commitment and its resulting love, we tend to feel depressed and desolate. it is only God that loves us completely, and it is only through Him that we are able to learn how to live a life that makes a loving and committed marriage possible.
Commitments are not easy. Marriages are not fairytales consisting of happy ending and rainbows. Marriages require real and constant effort. No two people are alike. They have different opinions and preferences. There are times when spouses lose their temper and become upset with each other. For the commitment to endure, both spouses must overcome their natures and love each other as God wills. By living in God’s will, a couple can survive the hardships and pressures that are faced by marriages.

Faith in God is the recipe for a good, lasting, and committed marriage. If both people love God first, they will be truly able to love each other. If they live their lives to honor God, they will treat each other with dignity, love, respect, and honesty. If they recognize their spouse as one of God’s precious creations, they will love and cherish that person and see them as a gift from God. Sometimes, through our faith, God calls us to make choices that are hard. Remember that God sees all things and knows all things. He knows what will make you happy and he knows what you need to do to achieve that happiness. Following God’s will in faith, binds and strengthens a marriage, and creates the ultimate commitment that we all seek and need.

Yet, we know that it is hard for marriages to survive in our world. Even when we strive to live in God’s will, we cannot force others to do the same. We also can’t force our spouse to work on a marriage even when we chose to do so. That is why it is critical to determine, before marriage if and your future spouse both regard marriage that the underlying commitment in the same light. Further, that you both want to live in God’s will. The most important tools to strengthen and protect a marriage is faith, prayer, and the example of other strong marriages. Both spouses must recognize and agree with this truth so they can use these tools to protect their marriage.

Let’s all pray that God helps us realize that we still need the commitment provided in marriage. Further, let’s pray that both spouses choose to live in God’s will, before and during their marriage, so they can truly experience the graces found in this commitment.

Maria Wiemann

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